Here is the first video in my new #AskJouelzy series! Girl, some of the questions I received where just….dear lawd, Imma pray for y’all.

I didn’t intend for this to turn into a ratchet episode of Iyanla Vanzant, but it just went cause like someone has to tell you to love yourself first and stop centering your life around other people who don’t have your best interest at heart.

Here’s the questions I answered in this video:

#AskJouelzy – So Im 21 years old and finally coming out of my shyness shell and starting to venture out. Im going to this art/dance/runway show event thingy tomorrow BY MYSELF!!!!, b/c I want to =) So my question is have you ever gone to an event by yourself where you knew no one? If so, how did you break the ice with people and just start conversation? Any tips for me?!?! =)


#AskJouelzy – What advice would you give to older virgins (21+ y/o) in the dating world? I’m a 24-y/o virgin, and with men they are either scared away by that fact/don’t want to make the investment or they see me as some kind of conquest.

Imani Johnson

#AskJouelzy – i gots a question for yahh. I am in the middle of a veryy weird and confusing process of “A break” from my 1 year long relationship. His reasonns for this break are God wants us to do this and He hates feeling like he cant give me the attention i deserve ( He’s away at college) and i undderstand both. I guess we have a mutual understanding that we want to be togethher in the future so we have been stressing to each other we shouldnt talk or date other people( me more in-particular). but recently my long tiime ex has oozed his way in my life again. My most recent ex has always suspected that i still had something for my long time ago ex and they also know each other. i honestly dont have crazy feelings for my long time ago ex i feel like i only like the thought of him i dont really see him in my life forever. So after all this information LOL , my questions are: Do you think this is considered cheating?  Is it okkay for me and my recent ex to put limits on what we are allowed to do during this break time? should i end it with both of them? & WHAT THE HECK SHOULD I DO? LOL im so confused!!!! oO

Emailed to me:

My name is [redacted] and I’m from NY. In August my boyfriend proposed to me and I said yes but he would have to wait till I finished college to have a ceremony. as of 1 months ago my fiancé was diagnosed with HIV. He’s only 22. I decided to stay and support him. I’m not the type of person to kick people when there down it’s just I would talk about his HIV and ask questions and he’ll get offended. Now that our future plans have slightly changed (have kids the natural way) I’m feeling a little unsure about where we stand. Would you stay in the relationship if it were you? I’m so young (20) and just need some advise. I love him, and I wanna make it work. I just don’t know where to go from here.

Watch the video to see how I answered: