A Call for Prayers Because I Am Writing Every Day in March

It’s March and 25 days out until my birthday. Forever and day when I reflect on what I can do better it has always been: write more. But being the queen of procrastination I find every which way to never get around to it. To the point, that for the best two years I’ve almost […]

Isolating Yourself is not Self-Care

Why do we believe that cutting ourselves off from the people who care about us, calling it something like “I’m putting my head down” “grinding” or hashtagging it, is how we become successful in a capitalist society? I am not implying that this is indicative of simply the Black community but it is symptomatic of […]

Thank You White People…

Thank you for reminding the world how much you hated me. I had hope in America and we know that hope is a powerful drug. Cold turkey, I am now hopeless. Thank you.

Working on Your Emotional Maturity, When Everyone Else is Emotionally Immature

Emotional maturity. I’ve spoken about this before on how emotional maturity will help you avoid fuckboys. Packaging advice through discussions on intimate relationships is always the easy entry way. But emotional maturity is more complex and nuanced than just how it relates to your dating life. Emotional maturity is taking the time to develop self […]

The Aftermath of Being a Victim of Rape | #SmartBrownGirl

What moment did the memory hit me? It was something mundane, that led me down the road, reminding me of that time. That suppressed emotion. Turkey sandwiches, that was it. I was thinking of a homeboy who has gone on to be very successful and thinking, why did I never date him? There were hints […]

On Dealing w/ Anxiety + Depression | #SmartBrownGirl

Since discussing loneliness and the “Strong Black woman,” where I discussed my own issues with being diagnosed with Generalized Anxiety Disorder when I was 11 years old and opened the platform for women (and men) of color to more comfortably discuss their own mental health, I have been receiving a lot of questions about what […]

#SmartBrownGirl & Living the Life You Want

*Image from Escume Last month I had an opportunity to attend Oprah’s Life You Want Weekend Tour in Houston, Texas. Oprah, along with other prominent speakers, hosted a two day event about exactly what the title suggests…learning to live the life you want. For as cliche as it all may seem, having the opportunity to […]

The Strong Black Woman & Loneliness in the Age of Social Media

Ah the lonely people, where do they all belong… Eleanor Rigby, a Beatles song was pitched as the platform to create the new ad campaign for Nike Jordan, because on the journey to legendary Michael Jordan had noted the loneliness one experiences as they keep pushing forward in their dream that no one else understands. […]