My Favorite Date: A Simply, Magical Lie.

I need to get back into the form of writing. So I’m dusting off my Writer’s Block book that I picked up after a recommendation in a Damon and Jo video, to put this sucker to get use. And what is my first prompt? What is my favorite date? Funny, because I am coming up […]

Single & Attractive Women Can Have Casual Sex Without Consenting to Rape

Casual Sex Is Not Consent to Rape

ArtParasite posted an article submitted anonymously entitled THE UGLY SIDE OF BEING A SINGLE, ATTRACTIVE AND AVAILABLE HETEROSEXUAL WOMAN, where a young woman details her encounters with men who have sexually mistreated her. Who have assaulted her right was a consenting partner in casual sex to force her to do things she did not want […]

Working on Your Emotional Maturity, When Everyone Else is Emotionally Immature

Emotional maturity. I’ve spoken about this before on how emotional maturity will help you avoid fuckboys. Packaging advice through discussions on intimate relationships is always the easy entry way. But emotional maturity is more complex and nuanced than just how it relates to your dating life. Emotional maturity is taking the time to develop self […]

How to Grow Emotionally Mature & Avoid F*ckboys

We so often overlook our emotional self, because it is so easy to get caught up in the visual. Not just the visual of how cute you can dress, but the visual of others perceive us. Caught up with concerning ourselves more with the emotions of others, versus dealing with our own emotional state, from […]

In Dating: HE is not Dumb, He’s Just Lazy

This is a PSA, a friendly reminder, a save your soul and yourself message for my sisters. Men are not dumb, but they are lazy. This is not to say that no dumb, ignorant men exist. I mean, what is Chris Brown or Lil Bow Wow. However, this is to say that my #SmartBrownGirls, as […]

Tinder Tips to Keep the Dating Shenanigans Low

Whether it’s Tinder, Soul Swipe, or the centers of your waste my time shenanigans like BlackPeopleMeet and Plenty of Fish, here’s some advice to keep the ain’t shittedness from entering into your personal space. Be smart and stay safe sis! 1. Black men all take the same 6 types of pics. Seated on the end […]

F*ckboy Astrology: What Sign Won’t You Date?

  My favorite past time on Snapchat + Twitter (sn: @jouelzy) is throwing shade at the Zodiac signs. What fun can’t be found in overgeneralizing based on one element of one’s birth chart? So let me guide you in using the Zodiac to avoid the crazies and find the one who has just enough ego […]

Single Black Female, Relationships & Dealing with Emotions | #SmartBrownGirl

Relationships and my emotional self are part of me that I like to keep private. But I understand that in relating to me, other #SmartBrownGirls want to know how I deal with certain situations. Most of my pre-25 years old relationships were the inspiration for my book, Send It On, a collection of short stories […]

#AskJouelzy: What Makes You A Ho? Defining Your Sexuality

Finally another #AskJouelzy is here! Totally thought that I had lost this footage that I recorded back in April, but I found it the other night and immediately put it up. This question was a really good one and I definitely wanted to discuss the topic on my channel so here we go: Hi Jouelzy! Like […]

#AskJouelzy: Dating, Virginity & HIV

Here is the first video in my new #AskJouelzy series! Girl, some of the questions I received where just….dear lawd, Imma pray for y’all. I didn’t intend for this to turn into a ratchet episode of Iyanla Vanzant, but it just went cause like someone has to tell you to love yourself first and stop […]

A Means to an End

In a past life I use to write alot. I have a compilation of short stores, mostly dealing with relationships that one of these days I’m going to finish and maybe publish, that I have finally published. Send It On, is a collection of short stories available for purchase here. Last week’s episode of Scandal reminded me […]