I haven’t updated this blog in a minute! I promise I’m going to get better. Life has been super hectic and I’m not the best with time management. I always feel like I can be doing so much more, but somehow I end up in bed and fall asleep. I moved to DC, started a new job, threw a successful hair event (still can’t believe that!), celebrated my sorority’s Centennial Convention (and the $600 I paid to register) all in the past month. My mind is spinning.
Recently 4cHairChick uploaded a video on her experience with beauty & self esteem, on how she dealt with not feeling beautiful and how others blatantly attacked her. I definitely felt what she was saying and decided to do a response video because I had similar experiences growing up but I internalized them differently and I thought that was worth sharing. What I do find interesting is that I think me and 4cHairChick are like ying and yang. In that she has cultivated a demure personality and I have cultivated snarky one — and you can see that in how we chose to wear our hair. She does a lot of classic hairstyles that air on the side of conservative, and I always go for big/obnoxious as possible. Also, I randomly thought of another video she had done on a wig that was made with marley hair. The commenters (politely) told her they didn’t care for the look and I remember thinking…I’ve definitely rocked that style and got a very positive response + I thought she looked good in it, she just needed to own the look. A small account in the power of perception.
Definitely check out 4cHairChick’s account on becoming secure with herself and her journey. It’s worth watching.
I wanted to share mine, because I wanted to emphasis our individual ability to create and control our own reality. It’s not an easy feat but it’s worth pursuing. And you’ll find the ability to do more and do better comes much easier when you’re not caught up in living someone else’s reality. Living just for a nicely filtered Instagram photo ain’t it. Plus, I like to share a bit more of my personal self, so people can come to a better understanding of who I am. I have no interest in cultivating an audience of mindless followers who I have the ultimate power to influence. The check that comes with that is nice, but I would much rather cultivate an audience that I can engage and have a genuine dialect with and maybe just maybe to curtail the amount of silly, no thought questions I get (lawdamercy, like folks NOT reading the captions or just asking questions to talk themselves out of doing a hair style cc: havana twists). Here ya go, let me know your thoughts:
Paulo Coelho is the author I spoke of. One of my favorite blog posts from him, I have it bookmarked on both my computers, read it here.